There’s an ongoing debate inside of me. While this is not something new, i find it rather disturbing since debates don’t always promote a gray area. It means that i have to let one side win and this time, that won’t be a pretty picture. You see, when the people you care about are involved, the usually less-tasking activities (aka. judgments and choices) become a humongous ordeal - one that I’m not interested to confront.
I’m polite enough to adhere anonymity so i won’t cause a scandal here by dropping names. Let’s just say i currently have a problem with leadership and all the unpredictable, often upsetting facets of it. Here goes:
(Please note that this is ME spoiling my inner monster, the whiner that i almost always struggle to defeat. This is me being weak.)
1. You lead by example - plain, simple, self-explanatory.
2. If you’re the one who’s at fault, recognize it and by all means lower your pride. - I see people exchanging emails with more words on the underlying meaning than there is without. How about trying to say sorry for a change? It doesn’t make you the lesser person, nor does it undermine your level of intellect. I find it so absurd that a lot of good relationships end because of pride. It’s even more disheartening to know that many people don’t realize that choosing to be a grudge-free person means choosing happiness.
3. Age doesn’t matter, really. - Whether you’re a fresh graduate with more “good things” in your head than there is on your resume, or a full-fledged woman of the world on the verge of being 30 or a cranky and jaded boss in your 50’s, maturity is not about that overrated number we often attach ourselves into. Being mature enough to handle a situation takes effort, one that we can all undertake. It can’t be done overnight, i know, but showing composure in the midst of confusion, for example, is a good start.
4. Gloating is not, and never will be the solution. - The ” See i’m right and you’re wrong” notion we all love to exemplify doesn’t make you smart. It makes you look desperate for attention. For starters, smart people don’t usually stage an act to get attention for themselves. Second, what’s the point? You may be right this time but you may also be wrong the next. Humility can be tricky. For all you know, that humility you so love to nurture may just be pride in disguise. Give yourself a pat on the shoulder, let things roll off your back sometimes, don’t be too hard on yourself.
We can’t all be friends, no matter how hard we try. There are just things that are not meant to be, like your first boyfriend or your college degree that never felt right. But that’s okay. You can be the best version of your self if you will it. You think some people are better than you but in the light of optimism, how about thinking that you may have something they don’t? Why do we box in what’s good and what’s not? In the process, we not only eliminate the beauty of diversity but we also limit our potential.
It’s okay to be you. What’s not okay is if you try so hard to reach the top level of the ladder without going through all the steps.Not everything is a holiday with friends and life is not one big party so why do we try so hard to fit in? Again, leadership is about being yourself, constantly improving without being selfish, a cause for inspiration and an invisible force that beckons us to a path of self-fulfillment. Good leadership is work that any aspirant must be willing to undertake.
I want your hair Lily! :P #soon
"People will stab you in your back and then ask why you’re bleeding."
— (via le-vide)